A difficult decision

My mother came over earlier and ask me to help find a cheap nursing home for my uncle ( Her oldest brother )

He had an accident a couple of years ago and since then , hadn't been able to move around much by himself. My mother says that he had been going downhill these couple of weeks. And his wife is so tired of cleaning after him. I wasn't too shocked by the way things turn out but still being asked for advise at this moment, it came as a little tremor.

I came up with a few alternatives

1, Hire a live in maid so that my auntie ( His wife) can take turns to look after and thus relieving her of some burdens.

2, A day care with transport can also relieve my auntie of the daytime duties, allowing her some rest in the daytime.

3, A full time nursing home.

I had a chat with my cousin and he too, is in a dilemma. He feels that if he will to put his father in a full time nursing home, my uncle might feel abandoned. Which is quite true. As I had faced the same predicament a year ago. It was such an agonising decision for me that I refused to take part in. I had actually dragged my mother with me to the doctor's meeting. She had try to shunned her responsibilities and pushed it to me. In the end, I was still the one faced with the task of breaking the news to him. I was so teary that words practically failed me. My father was the brisk one who brushed me off with making the decision himself.

My cousin is all more for sending him to a day care. I promised to check out the one run by Amber's school. They are all under YWCA management.

I will fill in the rest once I got more info.